Aware, Aligned, Kind and Simply Stay On Point, No Fancy Codes or Creeds or Complex Convolution Needed. Keep It Simple and Sensual. These Proactive men happen to life."

It takes one conversation to determine if a man is reactive or proactive.
A man can still be a decent nice guy and be reactive, but he will suck as a life partner due to constant bad luck and poor planning.
The difference between reactive and proactive is a mentality.

Life happens to reactive men.
Proactive men happen to life. 

Reactive men are always in reaction mode.
Proactive men are stocked up and prepared for storms that haven’t even occurred yet, and may never occur. 

Reactive men live for today, and think about today. 

Proactive men are solving problems today, for the purpose of several years down the line. 

Proactive men think and plan for 5 to 100 years in the future. Whilst Living Fully In The Now. 

Reactive men will shout in protest about protecting the environment, police brutality, sex Trafficking, justice system biases, political and media corruption and a million other active (and totally justified) social issues. 

But it’s always during the latest popular trending crisis, never before. 

They get in protective defensive mode when the shit hits the fan, never before. 

They don't see things coming. They don't have insight or foresight. 

They react and add wasted "problem" anger to The Hamster Wheel Fire. 

They wait until their tribe has been conquered and they are bound by chains (and debt) to say 

“Ima beat somebody ass” or “ we gotta protect the women and children y’all”. 

They jump on the band wagon. 

Cos it's cool. And trendy. 

But It's Not who they actually are. 

Because often, they do not even "know who they are" 

Many Lost puppies and tethered eunuchs. 

Boys who were never initiated. 

Inherited Conditioning. 

Family Of Origin Wounds and/or trauma. 

From incredibly subtle to dangerously overt. 

Disconnected, emotionally unavailable, physically absent, addicted, ego arrogant, incarcerated, dead, entitled, workaholic, unknown one night stand sperm donor, or him self who was also never initiated by "The Father," 

But dad was "Doing His Best", 

At The Time, We grow, learn, integrate and forgive. Or not. That is YOUR work, your choice. 

Draw a line in the inter generational sand. 

Emotionally cold, distant, dead, bypassed, abandoned, addicted, stressed, low self esteem, abused or abusive in survival mode, multiple choices of douche bag partners, by "The Mother". 

But mum was "Doing Her Best", 

At The Time, We grow, learn, integrate and forgive. Or not. That is your work, your choice. 

Draw a line in the inter generational sand. 

Lost Boys (and girls) who have unhealthy patterns and unconscious habits and possibly then choose their parents addictions to escape their anxieties, depression, phobias and fears. . 

No wonder if they have been exposed to these coping mechanisms of their "role models"

Little Boys (and girls) who have yet to turn inward and reparent themselves. Fully and in a healthy way.

When we choose to Drop The Victim Story and Choose To Do The Often Painful Reflective Inner Work. Meet whatever arises with compassion and forgiveness. For Self. Then others. 

No Blame. Take Full Response Ability. Doe Self. Right Now. The inner child reparenting work.

Or maybe your choice turns to; 

(because you BELIEVE these are all you have because that is all you saw...)

Porn, sex, drugs, workaholic, dysfunctional lack of boundaries, people pleasing, perfectionism, sport, gambling, unethical or criminal behaviours, alcohol as a crutch, unhealthy relationships with computer, video, TV and phone screens, numb out avoidance or win at all costs, competing hard and use, abuse and take others out, NO MATTER WHO, to WIN and get there! (wherever The Hell, "There" is...) 

These choices often come from a childhood home and place of chaos or aggressive lack with an insatiably leaky energy bucket. Drama and chaos and leaky boundaries was what you grew up in and on. No wonder the pattern repeats. Until YOU choose differently. 

Maybe The Lost Little Boy still addicted to family of origin parental patterns has No presence. No Depth, No Spine, No Resilience or Ethics or Morals or Balls. Not his fault, but it IS his responsibility to change and grow and BE AWARE to NOT inflict these less helpful traits onto his children or partner or family. 

If He was Never initiated, he may continue with a shallow projecting ego and mostly unconscious addictions and "ways of being" in a lacking of presence. Numb out and disassociate. By pass and avoid. Love and Light is as bad as pissed and broken. If it does not take personal responsibility to actually reveal and heal and do The Mofo required psychological reflective soul work. The only way out is through. And that requires a dredging inward dive, not to live there or get stuck, but to reach down to them, expose the weeds and pull them out One By One. By The Roots. Or they will return. 

If you find you are still projecting and competing hard to win at all costs and in accumulation greed mode, controlling others and expecting others to serve you compliantly ( all with A Cave Man Grunting whilst connected to a screen in your hand and face as your "communication") you may still have another initiation ahead. 

To stand in and own your simple, unwavering masculine essence is easy once you choose to Do The Work, The Journey Within. 

Do not be the simply repeating sheep bleating the latest flocking sermon.

 Cos it's cool. And trendy. And every one's doing it.... 

Proactive men are territory conscious, and moves their tribe out of the way from potential danger zones to decrease the probability of becoming a target, not when they become a target. 

They operate with a preventative measures mentality. 

They don't do drama. 

They don't buy into or feed The Collective Fears. (over which they have no sway any way)

They are solution and family focussed not problem or protest focussed. 

They look after and OWN their OWN shit first. 

They gladly assume response ability. For Self. Becasue they are proactive. Not reactive. 
It takes one conversation to determine if a man is reactive or proactive in mentality.

Listen and all is revealed. 

 
- Eli Markus